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To Save: Implies she’s weak and in need of help.⁠


It assumes that the “saviour” knows better and therefore the act of saving, even if practically helpful, becomes patronizing and ultimately disempowering.⁠

⁠It is time for men to understand that the only “women” who need saving are those looking for a parent (and not a partner)⁠

⁠A woman rejoices in the exploration of her own power and in the facing of her own life’s challenges.⁠

⁠Only Disney princesses need a white knight to come to the rescue.⁠

⁠The archetypal feminine is in fact far more ferocious, furious and capable of far more intensity and wild expression than the masculine.⁠

⁠To Serve: Means to be of use, to support and to do what is conscious and useful (not necessarily what is good or nice)⁠

⁠To serve means that you honour her power while also understanding the beauty that is possible when there’s a mutual desire for co-creation.⁠

⁠To serve is to support someone in that which is important to them – and NEVER to try and do it for them. ⁠

⁠For a man to serve a woman he must first recognize that the relationship is a dance where both play different yet equally meaningful roles.⁠

⁠And a dance is only beautiful when both partners are co-creating it from a place of love.⁠

⁠Never from a place of obligation, of forcing, trying to change or disempowering the other.⁠

⁠No matter how good your intentions.⁠

⁠A partner that needs to be saved, is looking for a parent.⁠

⁠A partner that celebrates being served, is open for love.⁠

Nicolas Canon
Nico Canon is an artist, writer and dating coach. His art and writing are about reclaiming our right to be seduced by our lives and relationships. Through his work he explores the links between people and their deepest and rawest desires, opening up a bridge of self-expression and acceptance.

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