Since the “player / bachelor” lifestyle is all that society and the entertainment and music industry shoves down our throat..
I figured I’d share a few of my favourite parts of being married.
(Take this from someone who spent close to a decade in what most guys would consider the uninhibited peaks of the bachelor life.)
1- Every single area of my life is now thriving.
I did not realize how much of my time and resources were going to dating, meeting women and running inside of that hamster-wheel.
These last years as a committed man I’ve done what I did not do in over a decade being single.
Launched a best selling book, started two businesses, invested in meaningful projects, lost 30+ pounds, quit drinking, reconnected to my family and God, changed my whole social circle, learned to play guitar, flute and sing..
And so much more.
2- I feel so much more FREEDOM.
I thought I’d feel caged by “being with only one woman.”
I now see that I am free from an erratic mind, free from the chase, free from the ADHD, free from the mess that dating can be..
I am free from distractions and committed to one woman.
With her, I feel free to be fully myself.
I do not have to tippy toe out of fear of being vulnerable or things moving too fast too quickly.
We’re in it for life and that’s a very freeing frame from which to relate.
3- I have healed so much.
I used to do a lot of courses, retreats and drink Ayahuasca..
All of that helped but nothing comes close to the kind of work that a committed relationship will invite you into.
I’ve touched very tender parts of my heart that I had hidden
I’ve been held in my shame and pain..
I’ve seen the unprocessed darkness that still lived within me..
And I’ve had a friend with whom I can venture into the dark forests of healing.
Swimming at the surface you will never find the treasures that the depth of the ocean has in store for you.
It’s not easy, I’ll tell you that..
But it’s so damn worth it!