Stop trying to coach, fix, guide, and give advice when it has not been requested.
Your issue is that witnessing your partner suffering makes you anxious.
So you seek to soothe yourself by trying to change their behaviour.
Until your emotions are not so entangled with another person, you won’t be able to see them clearly..
nor help them effectively.
They may be frustrated, angry, depressed, anxious, or going through a rough time and rather unaware of how to move forward…
That’s for them to deal with.
You feel uneasy and uncomfortable witnessing that,
That’s where your work lies.