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The Difference Between Desire and Neediness

April 22, 2021


Desire comes from the body, neediness from the mind.

Like hunger and gluttony.

One is natural – the other can never be satisfied and only burries you deeper into a spiral of self consciousness.

Desire is wanting without expectation. Neediness is attachment to an expected outcome.

Desire is our truth. Neediness our sickness.

Desire is a claim of the abundant. Neediness reflects needs not met.

Desire is a gift of presence and appreciation. Neediness is a debt. It places the weight of our joy on the other and their reactions.

Desire is life force flowing through you. Neediness is your disconnection from this force.

Desire is the universal fire moving you towards expansion. Life wanting to experience itself. Neediness is attachment to wanting life to be the way we want, a refusal of what is.

But it is also human!

Would you judge yourself if after food deprivation, you rushed to binge eat at a buffet?

Or when close to dying of thirst, you’d chug jar after jar of water to the point of sickness?

Neediness is only a symptom of a need not being met.

Shedding light on something you have not taken care of within you.

If you crave love, you’re love deprived and you could use loving yourself and filling your own cup first.

If you crave approval and validation, you’re deprived of personal meaning and you could use some time in solitude and facing death – to come to terms with jow ephemeral life is (and how insignificant other’s opinions are)

If you crave money, you’re deprived of flow. Nature is rich beyond limit. You could use a lot more trust and appreciation for the already existing abundance within you.

So I invite you to shake hands with your Neediness through compassion – and to feed your soul what it needs, before you shortchange yourself and go seeking for temporary, cheap, 2nd class solutions.

It is only when we stop outsourcing our inner well being that we can then be of contribution to others.